There is no shortage of tips for better oral sex, but sometimes a technique comes along that feels like a total game-changer. I recently discovered the Kivin Method, a lesser-known technique that has been quietly making waves for one very specific reason— it can get you to orgasm in under three minutes. Intrigued? Same.
For something with such a bold claim, the Kivin Method is still surprisingly under-the-radar. And while anything that promises a time-stamped orgasm might raise some eyebrows, it’s not about one-size-fits-all results. Each body is unique, and what feels amazing for one person may feel overstimulating or uncomfortable for another. That’s exactly why this method stands out to me: because it centers comfort, access, and the kind of stimulation that a lot of people with vulvas say actually works. Ahead, a deep dive into the Kivin Method, including what it is, its benefits, and how to incorporate it into your next steamy night.
What is the Kivin Method?
At its most basic level, the Kivin Method is oral sex… but sideways. According to board-certified sex educator, Linnea Marie, a sexpert at BedBible.com, this method is “another approach to cunnilingus, involving the giver lying perpendicular to the receiver, allowing oral stimulation to the clitoris and vulva from a side angle.” In this position, the giver works their tongue side-to-side across the vulva/clitoris, instead of the traditional up-and-down motion.
There is also a hands-on element to the technique. Annabelle Knight, a sex and relationship expert and author of The Matchmaker’s Match, adds that the giver needs to “place the index finger and thumb on either side of the clitoris to raise and steady it.” If free, the other hand can rest gently on the perineum (the area between the vulva and anus) to apply consistent, gentle pressure.
How does the Kivin Method work?
The clitoris isn’t simply a little external nub as you may think, but rather a much larger and longer internal organ, which Knight reminds us is packed with “thousands of pleasurable nerve endings“. She goes on to explain that the Kivin Method works because “instead of being licked up and down, which would miss out on stimulating the crura and bulbs [or the arms and legs of the clitoris], licking occurs lengthways, meaning that stimulation is spread over a larger surface area.” Because of this, some have reported that using the method has brought them to orgasm in just three minutes, according to Knight.
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What are the benefits of the Kivin Method?
It provides wider clitoral stimulation
Not only can the horizontal tongue motions cover the full width of the clitoral hood and reach more of that internal clitoral network, it can also mean gentler, more even stimulation. If you’re someone who doesn’t love direct clitoral stimulation (like me, hello!), this position might be precisely what your oral sex toolbox has been looking for, because it avoids overstimulation of just the tip.
It is more comfortable for the giver
Switching to a side-on position means no more awkward neck angles or hovering. The positioning gives the person performing oral more freedom and comfort, allowing them to focus more on the pleasure they’re giving than the twinge in their neck. So much about pleasure is mental, and knowing your partner is comfortable also allows the receiver to sit back and relax.
It offers easy access to other sensitive areas
The Kivin method also supports easier access to other sensitive parts, or erogenous zones on the body, including the anus, the vaginal opening, and the perineum. All of these areas can enhance pleasure when orally stimulated, or when touched with fingers or toys in tandem with oral sex.
How to try the Kivin Method
1. Start with comfort
Have your partner lie back in a position that feels sustainable and relaxing for them. Adding pillows under the hips or knees can help open up the area and keep both partners from uncomfortably contorting their bodies. Instead of settling between their legs, position your body perpendicular to theirs (think: forming an “L” shape with your bodies).
2. Add a hand for support or pressure
With one hand, you can gently steady the clitoral hood by placing your fingers on either side. This will help guide your movements and allow for more precise contact with the clitoris and vulva area. Some people also prefer to use their other hand to apply gentle pressure to the perineum, which can help engage the pelvic floor and intensify sensation.
3. Tune in to your partner
The key to the Kivin Method, as with any form of intimacy, is effective communication. Since everyone experiences pleasure differently, communicate with your partner and adjust your approach accordingly. Some might love the perineum pressure, while others might prefer a lighter touch, a change in rhythm, vibrator, or no additional touch at all.
4. Take your time
Even though this method is known for its “three-minute orgasm” reputation, the goal isn’t to beat the clock. Let the process be a guide, not a guarantee. Take your time, explore what feels good for both of you, and remember: there’s no right or wrong way to find pleasure.
Sydney Cox, Contributing Writer
Sydney Cox is a Chicago-based writer and intimacy coordinator who is passionate about exploring the complexities of human connections and teaching readers to advocate for themselves. Sydney’s work has been featured in various publications, where they aim to foster open and honest conversations.
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